I know this is the time of year when all we think about New Years Resolutions. There’s so much diet and weight loss talk on tv, in magazines and on the internet… how can one not think about it?
I don’t like Resolutions. Though I do think it is important to have goals to better yourself, whether it’s to exercise, live healthier, or fix bad habits. But the pressure, hype and unrealistic promises out there can be too much.And judging by the emails and tweets many of you have sent me so far this new year, everyone has hope about 2013 — yet you have anxiety about the pressure to get in shape and make big changes, and fear that you’ll be back where you were in a few short weeks
(if you’re not there already).My best advice is
to tell you to just relax, try your best to stay in the moment, pay attention to your food, and not to make drastic resolutions and proclamations. They simply just don’t work.
This New Year’s Eve I had a few glasses of wine, and I ate a dinner of cheese fondue with some nice crusty bread (something I learned to love when I lived in France). It was delicious, yet not exactly a ‘skinny’ meal!But unlike my behavior in my 20’s and early 30’s, this wasn’t an emotional binge, it didn’t stress me out, nor did I wake up on January 1st and make a resolution or extreme proclamation. I was simply hungry and I wanted it (who couldn’t resist some creamy, melted cheese on bread!).The next day, January 1st, I ate what I normally eat for breakfast and continued life and eating as usual. In fact, I had two cookies that were leftover from Christmas, but it was all in moderation just like I do on any other day (they were small cookies).The old me
would have binged on New Year’s Eve, then awoken on January 1st vowing to start a new diet (yet again, though every other one had failed me) and swearing that I’d never eat fattening food again. And that I would hit the gym every free moment I had. All of which is just simply ridiculous.Today, I aim to get some moderate exercise 3-4 days a week, adding in a bit of light weights two of those days (as a woman over 40 I think weights are necessary and helpful). I eat foods that nourish my body, give me energy, and make me feel good, while allowing a guilty pleasure when I want it (yet in moderation).
What I eat or do is really irrelevant, as you need to find what works for you.
But I want to point out that extremes and resolutions do not work, but instead put you in a stressful state, and often make you even more obsessed with food, your body and your weight. Which is pretty much the opposite of what you want, right?
You have our own likes and dislikes and your own habits, and your own needs. You need to live your own life, rather than do what some unrealistic diet book or workout guru tells you to do. And you also need to find what works for you.
You will reach your weight loss goals by living a healthy lifestyle. And living a healthy lifestyle means eating nutritious foods, fitting in exercise when you can, and not feeling guilty when you indulge in treats.
A diet is temporary. Being healthy is a way of living. My wish for you in 2018 and every year
— is that you’ll be good to yourself, eat well, and allow yourself an indulgence in moderate amounts when you want it and without guilt. And that you won’t obsessively exercise and instead just do what is good for you when you can.Believe it or not, small efforts throughout the day, the week, and the year are the key to living a ‘naturally thin’ lifestyle. Overeating or bingeing, followed by starving or dieting and running to a ‘bootcamp’ or some other severe form of exercise is extreme and will not last. The results are temporary and you know you cannot keep up that extreme regimen for long.Yet these are difficult concepts to really grasp, as just like anything, merely reading, learning or understanding something isn’t enough to make lasting changes– you need to experience them and implement them into your daily life.For some of you, you need something to start you on the right track. My Thinner Peace Weight Loss Program
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[toggle title="Joelle"]Good advice. I am a wellness coach and really enjoyed your post.[/toggle][toggle title="Jon C"]This post is great. People need to enjoy themselves while being healthy! It’s the only way to do it. I really liked that you mentioned people should simply pay attention to their food and stay relaxed rather than make a drastic decision about weight loss or exercise programs.[/toggle][toggle title="Bethy"]I absolutely always make a resolution and fail at it. It’s always some huge, life altering change. Maybe this is exactly what I need – commit to taking care of myself and my health. Love this idea.[/toggle][toggle title="Claire McCoy"]I agree with this article and the fact that new years resolutions that only focus on weight loss can directly lead to self-guilt. During New Years, before and after, weight loss programs increase their advertising due to the fact that many people adopt new years resolutions that involve weight loss. I agree that it is beneficial and more positive to have a resolution such as walking every day with the intention to improve fitness or health. However, when the focus and goal is weight loss and not health, this is where there is room for self-guilt and negative body image.I also agree with the point you made about your resolutions to exercise more and eat food that will fuel your body. Instead of worrying about eating “healthy” foods all the time, people should worry about and focus more on what their body needs to function that day. Instead of making a resolution to lose weight, why not make a resolution to improve the relationship you have with your body and perhaps improve the communication you have with your body? Having a resolution can put your body in a stressful state of mind which will only lead to a person putting more emphasis and focus on food and weight, which shouldn’t be the focus of a healthy resolution.Regarding the point made about diets relating to new years resolutions, researchers with the National Institutes of Health reported that 1/3 to 2/3 of weight is regained within one year and almost all is regained by year 5 (NIH, 1992). This statistic alone proves that dieting leads to regaining the weight back within a year to five years. This leads to self-guilt and the feeling of failure when dieting shouldn’t be the solution. Dieting puts a person out of touch with their body’s natural rhythm and needs and even though the person may be losing weight, it may not necessarily mean they are healthy or they have a good relationship with their body. As far as new years resolutions go, the focus should be health and improving the relationship with your body and not about just weight loss.Reference: National Institutes of Health (NIH): Methods for voluntary weight loss and control (Technology Assessment Conference Panel). Ann Intern Med 1992, 116:942-949.[/toggle][toggle title="Sarah"]Hi, stumbled across this blog as I have failed miserably with my New Years resolution….you know, the usual weight loss promise! What I liked about your article is that it shows what emotional cycle we can become entrapped in. We set our goals at a given date (mostly unachievable goals) and just set ourselves up for failure….again! I will take, as of today, the calm, rational approach to my health and fitness that you do, it just makes sense.
Thanks.[/toggle][toggle title="Ana Lydia"]I love your post and agree with. Being conscious of our diet is good to an extent. Sometimes I enjoy having a diet that doesn’t by any means fall into the category of low carb food but I don’t forget to make up for it later on.[/toggle][toggle title="John"]ou are a 100% correct in saying A diet is temporary. Being healthy is a way of living. I know its easier said then done , but starting off with baby steps will bring better results and it wont set you up for failure remember the only time frame you have to pay attention to is in your mind. One step at a time one day at a time.[/toggle][toggle title="Sahra"]I struggle so bad with new years resolutions. Especially with food![/toggle][toggle title="Louise -Live Healthy"]Thanks so much for this post. I don’t believe in new years resolutions either as they always end up getting broken. My philosphy is to have a vision for my body, my lifestyle, and my diet. I break this vision down into small achievable goals, which I then revisit often. I find that the results are so much better for me this way. Thanks again for a great post.[/toggle][toggle title="Dave"]Great article, i also like many others have failed with new years resolutions, but this post made me think about them differently.[/toggle][toggle title="Elle"]Dinneen, I am not a fan of New Year’s Resolutions at all.It seems to me that most people are not thinking of stepping stones but more likely life altering changes that are very hard to stick to.I prefer monthly resolutions. This month I want to try a new dish each week that is something that I have always wanted to try but have never had the courage.Next month my resolution is to try a new physical activity each week that I have never tried before (cue my fear of heights here).These to me are manageable. I am eating better and being more activity while pushing myself to try new things. Some things I like and keep doing, others, well let’s just say that the one-time experience is enough.[/toggle][toggle title="pulmonarysolutions "]I really wanted to balanced my diet but often I eat twice daily due to work that makes me not much fat and not much thin but need to have more exercise to make sure I am still healthy. this post help me realize i need to have balance. thanks.[/toggle][toggle title="Nate Anglin"]Creating your resolution does not help you to avoid unwanted foods, hence, it makes you crave even more. If you want to have a healthy lifestyle, you don’t wait for New Year to come to create your resolution. You should start today and make it happen. Great Post[/toggle][toggle title=" Fleur"]I can really relate to ‘The old you’. I have the tendency to react in exactly the same matter.[/toggle][toggle title="Steven Le"]Well spoken. I definitely agree with what you are saying. Too many times I have set resolutions that are just too far fetched and then give in after having a ‘unhealthy’ meal. Agree with what others have said too, you don’t need a new year to make a decision to take your well being, health and eating habits into care and make the necessary changes.Thanks for an amazing post![/toggle][toggle title="Chloe Baker"]Good advice! One should always have goals and ambitions. Plans in mind and what not. But being unrealistic just kills our motivation when we don’t achieve whatever goal by the time we set it for.[/toggle][toggle title="Danny Lake"]I have a tendency to make near impossible resolutions and obviously never end up achieving them! I’ve decided this year to decide simply what I want to achieve and how I will ensure it will happen. Instead of trying lose heck loads of weight or get beach body or anything like that.[/toggle]